People and Figuring it Out

We stress about money, finding a significant other, furthering our careers. We stress about where we are, what we’re doing and who we’ve become. We stress about who we’re going to be and who we think we currently are.

We second guess. We get so caught up in doing it right, in wondering if our decisions are the right ones.

So we set the next goal, and then the next, because we think that’s what we’re supposed to do, because it gives us a sense of control in our rapidly spinning lives.

I think, that as we progress along our paths, we sometimes put too much emphasis on figuring it out. We strive to live our lives correctly, to know all the answers and to be as put together as the next person.

We are in a constant state of puzzlement and comparison (but of course we won’t show that).

We may think the grass is always greener.

But here’s the thing. No one has it all figured out. That’s why it’s all so interesting.

Some of us are good at pretending we know the answers, that our lives are as pretty as our Instagram filter—but no one has all the answers.

And that’s a good thing.

What I do believe, is the ones that have it the most figured out are the ones that understand that they don’t, and they’re okay with that. But they do know something else, something that’s the most important of all.

They know that the only thing they have is each other—that all that really matters, is friends.

People.

People you’ve known for years, people you’ve just met. People that give you a new perspective, people that see eye-to-eye.

Just people—people here trying to figure it out, to live and be happy, to have a good life.

And a good life means different things for different people, and that’s okay. That’s the way it’s supposed to be.

None of us have it all figured out. But we all have different parts figured out. We all share our knowledge of those parts, we all live with the same questions.

We all have people we love, people we’ve lost, people we’ve been friends with since day one and people we connected with last week.

Friends, family, acquaintances, conversations with strangers.

That’s what really matters. That’s all that really matters.