Why I Want To Be Single For Life

I want to be single for life.

I want to be able to do what I want, when I want. I want to feel no obligation toward anyone. I want to do exactly what pleases me. I want to be independent. I want to make it on my own. I want to be mine and mine alone.

And I will.

I am currently a 22 year old woman that enjoys blogging, has an obsession with coffee and interior design, and watches rom coms over and over again until the words come as second nature.

Obviously, I don’t actually want to be single for life, as far as the traditional definition goes.

I have a lot of goals. I want to do a lot, I want to accomplish a lot and I want to be a lot.

My aspirations are my own. It is my responsibility to get up every day to work toward my goals and it is my responsibility to evaluate my progress and learn from my mistakes as I try to reach them. I really have no room in my “life plan” for anyone to hold me back.

And they won’t.

I refuse to settle. (See Sh*t Single Girls Say– “I’m just too picky”).

I want someone that will accept that I am independent, encourage me to be my own person and drive me to attain my dreams.

I want someone that will make me want to make them breakfast. I want someone that will make me want to go to a Giants game even though I hate the Giants. I want someone that will make me want to feel obliged to tell them where I am going, because I know they care, and I care right back.

I want someone that respects my aspirations and encourages me to attain them. I want someone that nudges me at 5 a.m. when my alarm goes off because they know I want to go to the gym. I want someone that will support my decision to uproot for a crazy job offer because they know it’s what is best for me.

I want someone that believes in me.

Will I always want to do certain things? No. Do I want someone that will convince me to call in sick once or twice to escape with them for the day? Of course. I’m not looking for a life coach after all, but balance is key.

I want to be single for life. I never want to lose myself in trying to please or live in conjunction with another. I want someone that allows me to be myself. We will share things, sure. We will change and make sacrifices, sure. But I will always be myself and they will always be themselves, because we won’t want it any other way.